@ badwestguy,You don't have option 'Block private networks' enabled on the WAN interface?Greetings, mark
Yes, use OpnVPN, then you can SSH into the LAN side of OPNsense without any issues.
Your WAN is RFC1918 which is NOT routed to the public internet. You are probably behind a carrier grade nat which makes it impossible to reach your device via the internet or you are behind a home router which needs a port forward to make it work.
It takes all of 5 minutes to configure OpenVPN using the wizard, it's taken you longer than that already!
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