Actually I am in the process to figure out how to determine if flow control is enabled or not on a device. Unfortunately ethtool is not part of the distro, so I cannot figure it out yet. Would be nice to have ethtool available as an add-on package.
The following settings will work for the em driverPut in loader.conf.local# Flow Control (FC) 0=Disabled 1=Rx Pause 2=Tx Pause 3=Full FC# This setting must be set according to your configuration. VERY IMPORTANT!# Set FC to 0(<x>) on every interfaces used by IPShw.em.<x>.fc=0 - Also put in System Tunables hw.em.<x>.fc: value=0