I'd go with the 8GB of RAM model. Default install now uses ZFS and it will use the extra memory if it is available. My system is currently using about 6GB. And you want to use ZFS so you can use bectl.
Connect a monitor and keyboard (VGA image) to that device when you are working on it, there's your console. If not then the serial image might have SSH running and you could SSH into the device, I'd need to check the documents to be more confident on this option.
And play with it, the more you work on it, the more confidence you'll get. Don't be afraid of breaking it, the hardware will survive and the worst you'll need to do is load the OS again. There should be no circumstance where any living creatures will get harmed during your setup or configuration. If you run into a problem, connect your old system, jump online, and come ask a question.
All I have is a MacBook Air, no external keyboard or screen. The Protectli comes with a USB-C console cable, so I’m hoping iTerm, Warp, or Terminal on my Mac will let me do everything I need, like pressing F-keys to get into the BIOS and choose the boot disk. It’s probably straightforward, but it’s all new to me.