The tunnel traffic still stalls after a while (it did so after about 100MB inbound traffic).
I plan to test again with an older version of strongswan (the one that was included in 20.1.4; need to find out the version number).
This wont work since ABI changed.
Sep 8 17:03:05 charon[62985]: 05[IKE] <con5|1> giving up after 10 path probings Sep 8 17:03:05 charon[62985]: 05[IKE] <con5|1> restarting CHILD_SA con5
I plan to test again with an older version of strongswan (5.8.3, which was included in 20.1.4). I also plan to test with strongswan 5.9. But this will take some time, because I need to build these packages for FreeBSD 12.1 first.