How can I force pkg -4 for the updates?
setting the prefer IPv4 over IPv6 checkbox allowed it to update to:
OPNsense 22.1.r1-amd64
so, I guess my pkg -4 updates didn't do the whole thing.
And now that it's on that code, removing the preference still allows updates etc to work without hanging.
y'all can ignore this thread.
Though it would point to persistent IPv6 issues.
Prefer IPv4 certainly works in most scenarios, but not for IPv6-only applications should you have to deal with them.
Cheers,
Franco